What to Wear

Hey Everybody!!

I'm back and I'm here to do a little review. Back in December I was in this Christian bookstore just browsing I think I was looking for a Joyce Meyers book I can't remember but anyway I stumbled across this book called, "Little pink book on: What to wear" by Cathy Bartel.
My first thought was that the book was going to be about dressing classy and outward appearance, but not only does she talk about that she also talks about inner beauty, modesty, your faith, Gods love, and just becoming a better woman of God. How what you believe in, your confidence, and how you carry yourself all makes you beautiful and I LOVE that!!
I think that every woman who is walking with God or trying to find out who you are in God should definitely pick this book up. It's inexpensive I think I only paid $5 for it and its small only 90 pages and it can fit in your purse. I loved it. It's definitely one of those books you go back and read and get little tips and scriptures out of.
Oh and her husband writes books as well his name is Blaine Bartel. I actually picked up "Little black book on Sex & Dating" I haven't read it yet my boyfriend just finished it and he said it was very good and informative lol.

Let me know if you have other books you think I would be interested in or just books that blessed you. I love to read so I'm always up for a good book


Talk to you soon,


❤Zanda

A few pics below. Yes I have my alone time with God in my car lol

Happy New Year!

Good Morning Everybody!! Happy New Year!
It's been a long time since I've sent out my morning messages but I'm back and I'm going to try to stick to it. This mornings verse is "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world." (John 16:33 NIV).
Sometimes I have days where I feel really defeated. I don't feel good about anything. Everything seems to be going wrong in every area of my life. Before I began my relationship with God I felt like nobody understood what I was going through. (Sometimes i still feel like that) Even when I called my friends and sat on the phone crying and talking for hours, I would only receive a temporary relief. And don't get me wrong I still have moments when I call my best friend and vent but I soon realized can't nobody give what God gives me. How can I sit here and ask for advice from someone who hasn't defeated the problem for themselves? Cause guess what 10 minutes after you get off the phone you are going to sink right back into your problems. They only gave you temporary relief that everything would be alright. No I would rather talk to someone who has overcome the very obstacle that has me bound.
That's what God wants us to do. He wants us to have peace not be in turmoil over worldly situations. Let Him fight your battles. I know it may sound easier said than done but it's my prayer that we all become more dependent on God and less on man. I hope that everybody is has a great day 😘☺

Should Old Aquantience Be Forgot...

 I guess the old saying is true: The older you get the faster the years seem to fly! I can not believe that 2012 is coming to an end. I don't know where the time went all. I know is that its December 31st and I have some recapping to do.
 For starters let me just say that I can not even remember where I was, who I was with, or what I was doing to bring in 2012 (lol). I have text so many people and asked, "Hey, was I with you to bring in 2012?" and all of my close friends replied, "No". Honestly, I was probably in the bed because if I wasn't at church I have no idea where I could've been.
 I have learned so much this year. I've had many cries, many laughs, many moments where I cried out to God because I didn't know how to go on, and the list goes on and on. I can truly say that I am nothing without God. I have learned so much about myself through God. He opened my eyes to things that were right in front of me but because I had no desire to know the truth I was forever in the shadows of lies.
 I'd have to say one of the most important things that I've learned is how to be content. Philippians 4:11 states, " Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am in to be content:" Now this may seem like an easy task to some people but this was one of the hardest things for me. When I was younger I struggled with low self esteem. I was overweight and I didn't find myself to be beautiful at all. The older I got it kinda faded away but every now and again it would come back. When it did come back I would feel so depressed. I felt like I needed other people to make me happy, or to validate that I was beautiful. I was tired of feeling ths way. I knew that the only way I could learn to love myself was by asking God to help me and He did. Until you make peace with who you are, you will never be content with what you have!
 Another lesson that I learned is: Letting Go
 I never realized how many situations I was actually holding on to until I started really talking to God. Not just praying but I mean having full conversations with Him. When our relationship started getting stronger the walls started coming down. I felt like I was breathing for the very first time. I saw things in a whole new light. I didn't know how much forgiving someone was beneficial to my growth. Once I forgave I was able to move on and close chapters that I thought I had dealt with months ago. A little thing I learned to tell if you have really moved on from a situation is how you feel when someone brings it up. If you get that little tingle in your stomach and you feel like you're gonna be sick, you haven't released it. That's what I was doing with so many situations that I was in. I would tell myself that I was over it but still have an uneasy feeling inside. If you cant wish that person well then you have not moved on.
  Once I began to let go, God started to open so many door for me and brought into my life so many people of purpose.
 I know a lot of people are saying, "I'm not changing. Ima be the same me I was in 2012." Yeah all that is good or whatever but I don't want to be same the person I was in 2012. I want to be better. So I'm not going to make any resolutions (seeing as half of them won't get done lol) I am making Declarations.

I Declare that I will:

1. Always Keep God First
2. Be a better Woman of God.
3. hear from God clearer
4. live my life in a way that is pleasing to Him
5. remain pure
6. priortize my time better
7. Stay focused!!
8. Drive more (lol)
9. Stick to my diet
10. Live a healthier lifestyle
11. Be more approachable
12. Dress classier
13. Make A's every semester

And this is just to name a few. I claim that 2013 will be my year! I am so ready for whatever God has planned for me. I pray that He continues to keep my family, my pastors, and my close friends. 2012 definitely had its ups and down but God saw me through it all. I made it to see 20 years old! Two Decades (lol) I look forward to the journey that we are on. I'm ready for the ride!!

 Have a blessed and safe New Years!! See you in 2013!

~Zanda

Check out some memorable moments of 2012

Update!!

Hey Everybody!!
 So much has been going on, a lot of changes. I have been really busy with school and just with life in general. God has of course been blowing my mind. He is beginning to show me so many things. Our relationship is constantly growing deeper and deeper. I have missed writing terribly. I know that I must do better at prioritizing and making sure I put writing in the mix somewhere. So many people have asked me am I still writing, I mean like people I never thought would read my blog. They'd be surprised to hear me say, "No." I then realized that this is not something that I can slack on because God gave me this platform and I must continue to do what He has placed on my heart to do.
 So enough with that let me give you guys the run down on my life (lol)

On School....
  I finished my first semester of college since I've been back home!! (Whoop Whoop lol!) I must say that I actually like FSCJ as far as classes go. After many talks and seeking God I have FINALLY (everybody say Finally) decided on a major: Business Management! Let me tell y'all I went back and forth through so many majors because I like well I want to do a lot of things, but God stepped in and even though I hate math (lol) I trust God and I know He isn't leading me in the wrong direction. So needless to say I will be at many tutoring sessions. I plan on staying at FSCJ until I receive enough credits to transfer. The college I plan on transferring to, well you'll just have to stay tuned :).

 On Family...
 My family is doing a lot better. November 27, 2012 my great grandfather passed away from Parkinson's Disease. For those of you who don't know what that is here's a link: http://www.pdf.org/en/about_pd?gclid=CM-c393oorQCFQu0nQodeikAXg . Even though we knew what the ending outcome would be, it still hurts to actually face it. He and my great grandmother were married for 64 years! That is a long time to share your life with someone. We all still have our moments but we know that he is with God now where he doesn't have to suffer or hurt anymore.

 My Love Life.....
 That sounds so funny to say. Well.... lol I don't really know what to say. Out of no where God sent me the person that He set me aside for. I mean letting God have full control has been the best thing I've ever done. He gave me what I least expected and turned it into something beautiful. His name is Jerrod by the way.  I don't wanna give away too much because I will be doing an entry on Christian Dating and our full story will be in there. So far its been great though. I am truly blessed, thankful, and humble. God did His thang as always lol.


 Well that's all I can think of right now. I hope everyone is having a wonderful night and continue to keep God first. Stay tuned for upcoming post!!

 Love, Zanda

Here are some pictures!!

 Me on a "Natural" Hair day 

 My mother & I on thanksgiving 

 My Best Friend Melisa 

 Me 12/17/2012

Us All Smiles 

Praise God that you bear that name!

I know what you're all thinking, two post I one day?? Lol Yes God is putting it on my heart to write so I'm writing. Tonight God placed it on my heart to read 1 Peter. The particular scripture that stood out to me was (1 Peter 4:16 NIV), "However, if you suffer as a Christian, do not be ashamed, but praise God that you bear that name."

Do no be ashamed or embarrassed of the fact that you are going through a test or trial. Continue to praise God through every situation or obstacle. You are a Christian and saying and living it is not going to stop the devil from attacking you. I am here to tell you that there is so much purpose for your pain. When We are going through a trial God is trying to teach us a lesson. God uses pain for purpose verses pleasure. God isn't allowing all these things to happen to us and Him leave us there. He is always with us.

So you maybe having a bad day, night, week, month whatever. Keep praising God! He hears you and He loves you like crazy. Sometimes I have to remind myself, "My God loves me so much that He will never leave me. So no I may not see the end of the road or purpose now but I trust God with my life and my whole heart. He got me."

Hope this helps somebody tonight that maybe going through.

Reality Check

So today, I happen to run across one of my follower's (on twitter) blog. He was talking about Christian girls attracting the wrong kind of guys and it really got me thinking, what kind of image are we as Christian young ladies portraying??
When I was, "in the world" I loved to wear my tight fitting clothes, I liked to talk to guys that were no good for me, engaging in activities that were definitely questionable considering I was "saved", I just felt like I had to be like the girls I saw on tv.

For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul? (Matthew 16:26 NKJV).
When I fully decided to live my life for Christ I realized that my worldly lifestyle had to die. Boys would tell me all the time "Girl you are so Thick" or "You are fine" I realized that if I was going to be advertising my body by wearing tight clothes; how could I get mad when all he wanted to do was to have sex with me?? Or if I was at the club how could I get mad if a guy grabbed me? I'm the one in there stomping around with this little dress on. So I got rid of all the tight revealing clothing, stop hanging out with the wrong people, and deleted useless phone numbers out of my phone. I realized I had to practice what I preached. I want you to be attracted to the God in me rather than the physical assets He has blessed me with. (1 Peter 3:3-5) As Christian woman we have to realize that how we carry ourselves is everything. Just because we are in the world doesn't mean we have to be of the world. We are to be virtuous women (Proverbs 31). So yes, if you want a guy to respect you and not think of you as just some loose girl you need to:
1.) stop posting all these vulgar lyrics on twitter and Facebook.
2.) stop going out half naked and having to pull your clothes down every time you get up.
3.) stop posting half naked pictures on social networks (you are asking for Him to notice your "goodies" and not see you for the beautiful young lady God has made you to be)
4.) Stop going out and getting drunk! If you're out every weekend taking shot after shot, everybody is going to know you are a loud party girl that he can hit and soon forget (just being honest)
5.) This is a big one: Please, please, please, stop putting out all your sexual activities! Nobody needs to know what you do, who you do it with, and how good you do it! Leave something to the imagination.

Sisters, please know that I'm not fussing at you, I'm just tired of seeing some of us not knowing our worth.We have got to stop seeking approval from man. We she should live our life to please God and to seek His approval. I love you all and God loves you like crazy ! We are made in Gods image and we must represent Him well.


Love You All,

Zanda <3

My God is a Good God & This too Shall Pass!!

Good Morning!  Happy Thursday, one step closer to the weekend. Today we are going to Do a little something different. In bible study, my Pastor talked about watching what we say and how we say it. Did you know we have the authority to speak life or death over our situations? You can just be thinking out loud and say, "I know I'm not going to be able to do this. It seems like every time I try I fail." You just spoke into existence your own failure. Instead we have to speak life over the things that we want. God hears His children and if you are opening your mouth saying you can't, I'm a mess, I'm never going to be anything, this relationship is going nowhere; that's exactly where it's going NO WHERE! God will eventually give you everything you just spoke. But you think you're just venting; you don't even realize you just spoke your own destiny. Speak positive things into your atmosphere and watch things shift! So your task for this weekend is to NOT say anything negative! Lol. Instead when the devil tries to come at you or things don't seem to go your way you are going to say, "My God is a good God and this too shall pass." And watch your stress, anxiety, your whole situation gets better. I'm serious this is the task and I will check to see how it went lol. Remember Proverbs 15:4 says, "A wholesome tongue is a tree of life, But perverseness in it breaks the spirit."  Have a Great Day and Good Luck <3